… and get pregnant.
It was during a romantic dinner in December of 2008, that Gregg and I got the call that changed how we had always viewed our life after marriage. We always thought we would be like most people…. you fall in love, get married, have sex and produce cute little babies. The report made it clear, Gregg’s sperm count was not going to make this possible. We sat there in shock, called our family and then we cried. They weren’t tears of despair and hopelessness, they were tears of hope and faith. God has always been faithful, we have seen His hand of faithfulness consistently in our lives. We knew that this was all a part of God’s perfect plan for us and and that we could rest in it as we trust in Him.
Since that night God has called us to seek His guidance for how He wants us to start our family. Does He want us to adopt? Or should we foster? Or should we try embryo adoption or maybe in-vitro fertilization. At first I couldn’t imagine the thought of not being pregnant. The joy of a baby growing in your womb. How could I adopt or foster? I wanted to be pregnant. And what if we went through an adoption just to have it fall through at the last moment. We have friends who have had all those nightmare stories. I did not want to be one of them. But we wanted God’s will and slowly He softened my heart to all of these thoughts even to the possibility of never being a mommy. Through all of this God was leading us to not be anxious but to give thanks to Him as we asked Him for direction. And we knew He would lead us!
Philippians 4: 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Over the years God has clearly shown us that we are to move forward with IVF (in-vitro fertilization). But not just any IVF! No, God is taking us to Thailand! I know it sounds crazy, but when God gives you His peace it does transcend understanding!
Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, wil guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
So, how did we come to decide on Thailand? God wove some very special details into this part of the story! Years ago Gregg went to a wedding in his home town and ran into his friends, Nicole and Sean Arvin. They live in China and often go to Thailand. They shared with Gregg how they had done IVF in Thailand and now had a 1 year old son, Cade. Gregg came home from the wedding and shared with me all that the Arvins had shared with him. I thought it sounded exciting and crazy at the same time. We looked into the cost of doing in Thailand and were excited to see that it was only about $3,000-$4,000 for the medical expences compared to about $30,000 for the same thing here in the states! Over the following year Gregg and I researched and pursued many avenues, but this was the direction that God kept leading us back to. And then just to give us a special blessing, we recently found out that another friend of Gregg’s from his home town, Josh, has been living in Thailand (in the very town we are going to) with his wife for the last 3 years. They just recently had their first child and used the same Dr that we will be seeing when we go. Josh is helping us look for a condo to stay in, lending us transportation, giving us advice on all sorts of things that only someone who lives in that town would know!
We are getting really excited! We leave for Thailand on Feb 7th and will stay there until March 11th. We are praying that we come home pregnant! But we know we can trust God with that! We are so excited to see, and share with you, what God’s perfect plan is for us.
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him and he will direct your paths.